性侵犯

• 去一个安全的地方. 打电话给支持人员. 
• Don't try to go through this alone. 这不能怪你! 
• Call HAVEN’s Toll-Free Crisis Line at 877.922.1274, 911 or (248) 370-3333 for the OU police.
• Do not change clothes, shower, bathe, or douche even though you may feel a strong need to do so. If there has been oral penetration, do not brush your teeth, smoke, chew gum, or eat anything. 
• It is crucial that you do not destroy evidence in case you decide to press charges. 如果你的伤势很严重, have someone call 911 or take you directly to an Emergency Room (such as Ascension Providence Rochester Hospital).

You may have serious internal injuries; you need to have a physical examination. The risks for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy need to be discussed. 另外, the assault needs to be legally documented and evidence collected; this is referred to as the Medical-法律 Exam.

Even if your initial thought is you would never go to court, it is best to have the evidence collected in case you change your mind later. The sooner you have the exam done, the better.

In order to investigate the crime, a police detective will question you, collect evidence from the crime scene, receive the evidence obtained by the nurse examiner at the 葛培理健康中心 or the hospital, 然后写一份正式的声明. The police will protect your anonymity.

Questioning will usually focus on the events prior to the initial contact with the assailant, a detailed account of the behavior and words used by the assailant, 袭击的情况, and a description of the assailant. They may also ask about when you last had consensual sex. Questioning is done in a non-judgmental manner. In preparation for this interview, you may wish to write down your account in advance.

Michigan’s Criminal Sexual Conduct Code (CSC) prohibits forced or coerced sexual activity, the extent of which may range from the touching of sexual parts of the body to penetration of any oral, 阴道, 或者肛门体腔. The survivor may be female or male. Consent must be clear and freely given. A person under the influence of drugs or alcohol is considered incapable of giving the consent. A rape shield provision in the law restricts admissible evidence concerning the survivor's prior sexual history.

If you are a survivor of sexual assault, reaching out for help is a crucial step in your recovery and in the healing process. It is up to you to decide who and how to reach out for help. 我们建议:

1. 告诉你信任的人. Sexual assaults can be terrifying, traumatic, and an enormous burden to bear alone. Think about whom you might trust to tell that you believe will be supportive. You can also call Haven’s  24 hours a day, 7 days a week Crisis Support Line at (248) 334.1274 或免费电话  877.922.1274. You may also meet with a counselor at the OU Counseling Center, 星期一至星期五, 上午8时至下午5时.  The most important thing is finding someone to talk to and not staying silent about what has happened to you. 
    
2. 要求体格检查. Even if you don’t think you were physically hurt, you may want to be checked for internal injuries, pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases as soon as possible. Having a medical exam within 72 hours is best for collecting physical evidence of the sexual assault. 
    
3. 向警方报告. 你可联络Haven (877.922.1274) for 援助 in reviewing your reporting options. Whether to file a police report is your decision, and you do not have to make it immediately. 然而, 如果你决定报案的话, it would be advantageous to your case to do this as soon as possible. 
    
4. Seek additional supportive counseling. Regardless of whether you get a medical examination or report the assault, you may want help to deal with the impact of the assault. The OU Counseling Center offers comprehensive, expert therapeutic services to help you through the recovery process. You can come in to the Counseling Center on a walk-in crisis basis and be seen by a counselor as soon as possible the same day.

It is crucial that you remember that no matter what the circumstances were, you are not to blame for what happened to you. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do to take care of yourself. And most of all, reach out for help! There are people in your life who care about you and professionals who can help you heal.

When considering whether to tell your family and others close to you, anticipating their possible reactions is helpful. Review your past and current relationships and history of support.

If your family and/or significant others are not told, you may experience feelings of isolation and guilt over keeping this from them. Your family may find out from another source at a later date. It is also important to note that you may be denying yourself a major source of support. You may wish to discuss this and other decisions with a trusted friend or counselor.

Each survivor has his/her own recovery timetable. Some people are ready for counseling right away and others are not. Being heard by someone who is objective, supportive, and non-judgmental can be extremely beneficial.  Confidential counseling is available for students through the OU Counseling Center.

The survivor of sexual assault has been through a very traumatic experience and it is important that she/he receive support, 援助, 准确的信息. Your being there in a supportive way is immensely valuable.

Allow the survivor to make choices and remain in control. Give reassurance that she/he is not to blame. Listen as she/he talks about the experience. Be accepting of the survivor's many emotional reactions including anger, 恐惧, 焦虑, 和抑郁.

Believe what the survivor tells you. Know that revealing this experience takes a great deal of strength and courage. Letting the survivor know that you believe what they have told you and that the assault was not their fault is extremely important.

尊重隐私. Don’t tell anyone about the assault without the survivor’s permission. The survivor has only chosen to tell you and it may be hurtful or detrimental to their healing process and recovery.

做一个好的倾听者. Here are some things to keep in mind when a survivor chooses to talk with you:

• DO concentrate on understanding the survivor’s feelings
• 允许安静
• DO let the survivor know you are glad s/he told you
• DON'T interrogate or ask for specific details about the sexual assault
• DON'T ask "why" questions such as "why did you go there?或者“你为什么不尖叫??" or "why didn’t you go to the hospital right away?"
• DON'T tell the survivor what you would have done or what they should have done

Let the survivor make their own decisions. Always let survivors weigh their options and decide how to proceed in their own recovery process. Telling a survivor what you think they “should do” about the options available to them can contribute to a survivor’s sense of being disempowered. Instead of taking charge, ask how you can help. Support the decisions the survivor makes, even if you don’t agree with them!

Remind the survivor that you care. Being “there” for survivors is very important. You can do this in a number of ways; by being a good listener; accompanying them if they seek medical attention or walking over with them to get counseling or crisis support at the Counseling Center; making arrangements to have dinner or coffee with them; asking the survivor “how can I be helpful”; voicing your concern by saying things like “I’m sorry that this has happened”; telling them how courageous they are; or telling them that you don’t see the survivor any differently may all be tangible ways to show that you care about the survivor.

Give the survivor space if s/he needs it. Be sensitive to the fact that the survivor might want to spend some time alone. 不要往心里去. Survivors may just need some time to pay attention to their own needs from time to time.  

If you are a romantic partner of the survivor, ask for permission before touching or holding the survivor. 不要急于进行性接触. The survivor needs to decide when it is right to have sexual contact and to pace the intensity of involvement. Accept the fact that the survivor’s renewal of sexual interest may occur at a slow pace. Discuss the subject of sex in a non-sexual environment.